How kindly do you speak to yourself on a daily basis? Take a moment and reflect. When you woke up this morning, what were your first thoughts? When you saw your reflection in the mirror? When you got dressed? When you made your breakfast?
Were your thoughts supportive? Loving? Gentle?
Or were they degrading? Judgemental? Mean?
Pause. Take a breath. Let it out and with it let go of your judgments about yourself and how you handled your morning. For most of us, it is not our first instinct to be kind to ourselves. It is something we must learn and that takes time.
Think back on your morning again. Close your eyes this time and see if you can put a face or a name to the voice inside your head. Pause. Notice.
Does the voice belong to you?
When I am at my most critical I often find that the voices in my head do not actually belong to me. They belong to the people who taught me I wasn’t good enough as I am. That something needs to change for me to be worthy. Worthy of what? Who knows. I just know their words stayed with me and now they circle in the back of my mind, attacking me when I am most vulnerable, when I am tired, or sick, or hungry.
Can you relate? I feel you. I see you. You’re not alone.
I know this – the words that haunt you are not the truth. The painful words thrown out at you in anger or to wound you, are projections of what someone else holds inside about themselves. They are not your truth.
Your truth is that you are beautiful, inside and out. You are worthy, exactly as you are. You are enough. You deserve to be kind to yourself. You deserve to love yourself.
So tomorrow when you wake up, start your day with a kind word. When you see your reflection in the mirror, don’t criticize. Be the voice you needed to hear all along.
Tell the face in the mirror You are enough. You are Worthy. You are loved.
Tell any voices that are not yours, to take a seat. Their time in the spotlight it up.
It’s find your truth and speak it with love, daily.
Stay WildCoach Amanda